In contrast, we haven't explained anything to Ashton yet, though what he overhears and understands is beyond what he shares with us. I'm sure he knows "something" is up. We went over to Granny & Pawpaw's house yesterday and she's not there. But then again, a lot of people *were* there and I don't think he processed that she wasn't. We think it will hit him (figuratively) when we go over there once things have settled down and he realizes she's not there. This is just how we've decided to deal with it, for now anyways.
It might not actually BE the right way.... but in these circumstances, I'm not sure there is a right or wrong way to deal with these things. For now, I think this is the right way. I did do some searching online for social stories talking about death, etc. They look to be a good starting point. The links for them are below. I may also go to the library and see if there are any "young" children's books that discuss death and what happens, etc.
The links I found helpful are:
About Death social story
Story tailored to a child's interest explaining death
What is death?
Hug the ones you love, tell them that you love them ..... you may never know when your (or their) last day is...... We love you Granny and miss you very very much and know that you're flying free from pain up in heaven.... <3